"I hate that question"

Wow! What a thread going on here!!! Even someone so lazy like me couldn't help dropping in. Well of course everybody is entitled to their own opinion, but this doesn't mean you can judge others. Personally, I really don't get what the problem is here. I come on TCP either to check on my friends to see how they are doing, or to have a little chat in order to take my mind off things. It is a blessing to find someone on the other side who is willing to spare some of his/her precious time for me. It is even more marvelous to see those correspondences turning into friendship in time. But what on earth could make anyone think that he/she has the right to ask for more than what the other party is willing to share.? We should not confuse stuff. Lying and not feeling like talking about something are totally different things.

Miss Innocent wrote:

So yeah, I would just like to say one more thing that I do completely agree with Lost and almost all of his thoughts and opinions are true and people shall at least disclose the basic things such as age or gender for a comfortable conversation.

Really? I had thought that the only basic rule here is the mutual respect. I haven’t seen disclosure of gender or age as a TCP rule. I am capable of carrying a conversation without the need of such knowledge. But of course somebody else might feel uncomfortable talking to someone say whose age is unknown,  just as another person might distrust someone dressed in pink for example. I sincerely respect that, and the solution is simple: Just don’t talk to people whom you don’t  trust. But again you cannot judge people on their choices, jump into conclusions. Above all nobody can give a crash course on friendship here.

Anyways for me "the asl" thing may be quite fun at times, enabling me question the set of mind of the person who poses that. I was quite puzzled with “the qualification” question though, some people can be so picky when it comes to having a random chat.

Guys

                 I am so sorry, to have caused this. Conoro why are you so angry with me?I  have never lied to anyone here and thats something that I feel is going on. I made lots of friends here and they didnt even know my age and that didnt prevent us from becoming friends.Please lets stop this,people are geting hurt and I dont want that. I think what has upset me about this post is that it has made me feel that I have lied about myself to you all and thats not true, I have always said I was over 30, to everyone.(never disclosing exactly, but not lying). Greek Tycoon is my friend and he is 15, I have never told him my age but I did tell him I was over 30, I never led him to believe I was younger, and when I felt that there was a situtation that was getting out of control with someone younger, I made it a point to say, It is not proper for someone my age to correspond with someone younger in such a matter, but we can still chat and be friends. I have never disrepected anyone here. Isnt what this chat is all about,   "chat and make friends"? 

 When I came here I wanted to make new friends with people from other countries and learn about their cultures.without all the mess we face in our everyday lives where we are critizised because of our color, race, if we are fat or ugly, if we are poor or rich ,old or young,quite or loud, if we are a dishwasher or a lawyer, do you understand what I am saying. we are always judged by these things in our everyday life. This Conoro is my explaination. Why do all these things really matter in friendships, as long as we dont lie and hurt eachother purposely , Why cant someone who Indian be friends with an American, or someone who is 40 not be friends with someone who is 15. (without crossing any certain bounderies) be friends? There is no reason in my opinion. If you want to start a relationship beyond friendship that is a different story.Then yes it is not right.

 If certain things that I have said have bothered  or hurt you, then, yes I will stay on to answer them, only because I do respect you that much ,and I do Love you all.

Okay, here's my list of least-liked questions in chat:

1) ASL (I think we've got that pretty well covered)

2) Your qualification? (Huh??)

3) Are you really a geek?

4) No really, how old are you? (This after saying "I'm an adult woman" - I mean really, can you imagine demadning that your mother's friends tell you their age? Sheesh.)

5) Do you have a boyfriend? (Like this matters in chat? Anyway, my stock answer is "No, because I don't think my husband would like it very much .)

But in real life, I don't tend to get too many that I don't like. Like Punky, I don't like being asked why I moved (to Pennsylvnania, not from Germany, of course)  because the answer is too complicated. And now that I'm clearly "older" I don't get that "do you two plan to have more kids" question so much.